Grief and Loss

What is Grief?

It is extremely difficult when someone dies.  It does not matter how close you were to that person, who that person was to you or what your relationship was.  It could be a family member, a friend or someone you didn’t know in person.

Emotions you may feel could be:

  • Shock
  • Anger
  • Sadness
  • Emptiness
  • Disbelief
  • Relief that the person is now out of pain

When someone dies it’s natural to feel a range of emotions and those emotions can come and go over time.  There is no right or wrong way to grieve but if any of those emotions become too much and you feel you need to reach out for support here are some healthy ways to do that.

Whatever you’re feeling is ok and you’re not alone.

If you're grieving, this is for you

Ways you can help yourself

  • Keep to a routine
  • Allow yourself to feel whatever emotion is happening for you
  • Take time to reach out to family, friends or professionals
  • Keep yourself busy
  • Do something positive you enjoy like listening to music, get some fresh air, watching a movie or playing a game.
  • Talk about the memories you have of that person to others

You, your friends and your family can access these sites for more help

Winstons Wish
Helpline – 08088 020 021 Monday-Friday 9am-5pm offer therapeutic advice on supporting a grieving child or young person after the death of a loved one.
ASK email service – ask@winstonswish.org email them for advice and support following the death of someone or you can visit the website and fill in the online form.
Online chat – Wednesday and Friday 12pm-4pm click ‘ASK US’ image on the website. online chat service to speak to someone about your grief or ask for guidance on supporting a bereaved child or young person.
Crisis messenger text: WW to 85258 – If you are a bereaved young person experiencing a crisis. Text service offers free 24/7 support for anyone who is experiencing suicidal thoughts, abuse or assault, self-harm, bullying, relationship issues.
Cruse 
Helpline – 0808 808 1677 or email helpline@cruse.org.uk
Open Monday and Friday 9.30am-5pm Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday 9.30am-8pm.
Local Branches to request counseling support following the death of someone: Burton 01283 533362 email: Burton@cruse.org.uk Derby: 01332 332098 Email: derby@cruse.org.uk

#WeArePaulet

Our wellbeing community and support continues even during these times where we may be isolated from each other.   This comes in many forms:

  •  All of the Wellbeing Team are available via email during school time. We will respond as quickly as we can to any contact and signpost you to the support you need
  • Burton Youth for Christ and the Listening Service – Available for you to talk through how you are feeling to process the current situation
  • The Community Church – Available for pastoral/spiritual support especially for any parents or staff within the Paulet Community. They can be contacted directly – dawn@tcc.org.uk  or via phone on 01283 545301 or 07517 522315.

Other support that we can access through the Wellbeing Hub are CAMHS;  Mental Health Support Team;  Action for Children;  Fran our school counsellor and MIND for our students over the age of 15.

To access any of the support identified above please email: Victoria Deer (deputy head and safeguarding lead) on v.deer@paulet.co.uk. We will be accessing this support over Easter as well so stay in touch!

If you or a member of our community needs support outside of school hours and anyone is an immediate risk of harm, please contact:

Samaritans – We’re here to listen 24 hours, 365 days a year. Call 116 123 for free

Childline  – Call 0800 1111

Our school is committed to safeguarding and promoting the welfare of children and young people. It expects all staff, volunteers and visitors to share this commitment. If you have any concerns that a child has been harmed, is at risk of harm, or you receive a disclosure, please contact our designated safeguarding lead Mrs. V. Deer (Deputy Head)